How does one learn to trust their own instincts to deal with situations in life to get them through? How does one learn to do anything in life? By actually getting out and doing them is how.

You can sit in a classroom or watch a video or listen to a coach, teacher, pastor/minister tell you ways of doing them but it isn’t until you actually get out and DO THEM do you truly learn how to do them. We can be given the tools we need by these people to use but it isn’t until we are actually practicing them that we truly LEARN to do them.

I’ll speak somewhat metaphorically with some examples. If you want to play a musical instrument, you have to physically pick it up and play it. We can sit down for hours, days, weeks, years to learn to do it. We are given tools that help us learn to play it. For example to learn to play a guitar we can learn what the chord structures are. What strings to hold down on the fret and what strings to pluck that make the chord. Keyboards same thing. We can sit and learn all these things in a book, video or from a teacher. And you can learn all the knowledge about how to play these chords all you want. But until you actually pick up that guitar and start playing them, you won’t be a musician now will you?

Sports can give us another look at this. If you want to learn to play basketball you can sit and watch hours of it. You can learn how from a coach or player or book. But until you actually get out and start playing it, you’ll never be a true basketball player will you? This is true with every sport. You will never be a good sportsman until you have spent some time practicing on how to be one.

Sure every once in awhile you’ll see a prodigy come along and just pick up that musical instrument and start playing it like very few can. This is usually seen at a young age. Same thing with sports. Every now and then someone comes along that just starts smoking the competition with very little practice before they started playing. These are gifted athletes or going back to the above paragraph, gifted musicians. But lets take a look at what happens to the natural athlete in his lifetime.  Sure in grade school he/she would be on the team just making all the other competitors look silly. His/her natural skill is so good that he/she makes it look effortless. But as he/she gets up higher in school to like the NCAA level they are surrounded by better caliber players. Now they are not standing out quite as much as they did in the high school level.  Now they go on to the professional level. They certainly don’t shine in the NBA/NFL like they did in school. They are surrounded by better competition. And of all the gifted players that have come along and went on to be professional even fewer still have achieved complete greatness even at the professional level. Micheal Jordan comes to mind. He is one of the very few that was visibly so much better than all the other athletes in the NBA he faced. Very few have or will achieve that level of greatness.

I want to become a great writer. I will only learn to do so by actually getting out here and writing. I’ve learned from schools and online classes how to be a good writer. But I won’t ever learn unless I am out here writing. As with anything in life you have to practice at something to be good at it. Remember back to when you learned to ride a bike? How often did you fall before you got to a point that you just didn’t fall anymore? It took time and practice.

This thought process can be brought into most everything there is to do in life. In order to be good at something you have to practice. And you don’t practice by sitting back and thinking about it, you have to physically go out and do it!!

So what makes some people be able to be so much better than most without alot of practice? INSTINCTS. Yes some people have more instinct into something than most and are good at it right away. For the rest of us, we have to practice to get better. Here’s an example of instincts in action and how with little to no practice you can do something well.

Let’s take making a child. In school we learned about human anatomy. We learned how and what does what that creates a life. But until we actually went out and had sex did we create that life. But you didn’t have to go to school to learn how to do that. We are all born with the instinct to just do it. Every animal on the planet is born with the instinct to procreate. The male may stick his rod into several other things before he finds what truly feels right to him. But once he finds the right one he stays with it. And that is because he’s listening to what his instinct is telling him to do. Yes, crude example but effective.

Unfortunately in this life we are living in a society that shows us we can’t believe what our instincts are telling us. The media is just filled with people telling you how if you want to be a good christian, for example, you must let go of anything that you think you know and just trust in what the bible, tora, quran is telling us to do. Those writings are telling you NOT to trust your instincts but to only listen to what the written word is telling you to do and how to do it. This is my problem with organized religion. It isn’t showing people how to be the best they can by trusting their instincts, it’s teaching people that they can only be shown heaven/nirvana by doing what is written in their book and being preached by the ministers of the religion. It goes against nature in every way. These writings seem to do more to control a population than to live a life we were given. We all have a path we need to walk in this life. Instinct tells us we are on the right path. Do migratory birds and fish have to learn from one of higher status to show them how to migrate? No they follow their instinct and just go. The first few times they do it, they may travel miles out of there way until they found the right and shortest path. Organized religion tells us what the shortest path is allegedly but this isn’t the path for everyone. And it certainly isn’t mine. My instinct tells me everything I’ve learned form organized religion is not for me. It feels uncomfortable and wrong when I think about it. I cannot embrace it.

Sure I believe there is a God but not in the way I learned it from the bible. I simply don’t trust what men of thousands of years ago thought and felt. It just doesn’t jive in modern society. These people thought the earth was flat and were totally convinced it was for hundreds of years. Until someone showed them evidence of the contrary. Someone had to prove otherwise that everything they were being taught was wrong. I’m not saying organized religion is wrong per say but it IS wrong for ME. I’ve learned to trust in what instincts are telling me.

If going to church every Sunday and living your life according to what the bible is telling you to do is working for you, than you must be on the right path or you’ve learned to just accept what those above you are telling you and not question it. You’ve learned to suppress your instincts. Either way you’ve learned a lifestyle that took alot of practice to achieve and for that I commend you.

I want to be a better writer. I’ve been the proverbial bird sitting in the nest and flapping my wings to prepare to take flight. But I haven’t left the nest yet in my writing experience. I’m about to open up and market this blog. The only way I’ll get better is to learn from the input I get from you the reader. Instincts will tell me what best to say and how to say it. I’m going to offend of piss some people off along the way. But I’ll have to crash a few times to learn from my mistakes. When I was learning to ride a bike I crashed and burned alot. Failing is a life process. But the ultimate failure in life is never trying. And by God I’m out here trying. What is life telling you do to? What are your instincts telling you? Do you know how to listen to them?

Your body can give you clues to what your higher self, spirit guide, God, instincts are telling you to do. When you think about a way to handle a situation do you feel a mild pain somewhere on your body?  Do you feel an itch suddenly arise? Do you feel a lump in your throat or numbness in your chest? Your body is telling you what you’re thinking about isn’t best serving your energy. It’s not resonating with you. We are so afraid of failing that we never start doing something our instincts are pushing us to do. And thus we are living our life out of sync. We are depressed or anxious and getting the fix from prescription medication. The meds aren’t helping you to actually fix or live in the correct path for you. They are simply numbing the pain and anxiety. That is not a true fix people. That is a false sense of security.

Today there are more people than ever before on psychotropic drugs to deal with anxiety and depression. The pharmaceutical industry has amassed so much money that it’s not quite conceivable in our minds. All these people on these man made pharmaceutical drugs are not living in their own frequency and life path. They are living a life not intended for them and those in power have given them a tool to ease the pain and also to not question what they are doing. They are teaching complacency.

You’ll see in comments in this blog that there will be some people that are so comfortable in their little false livelihood bubble that they will attack what I’m saying because God forbid it is the truth to them. Learning your living a lie is tough to accept. It’s so much easier to just (and how many times have you heard this gem in your life) “accept things for the way they are.”

I will not accept the lie because my instincts are telling me and making me feel like they are wrong. To me.